The Perfect Man

I had a dream the other day that I married Tim Tebow. We got married and then he told me he wanted me to home school our future kids. I just looked at him and was like "...Do you want me to hate our kids?? 'Cause I'm pretty sure I would if I was responsible for teaching them algebra.."

Then I woke up...

See I have a crush on Tim Tebow, not that I know him, but everyone has that public figure/celebrity that they have a crush on and he's mine. He's all tall and athletic and he loves Jesus.

Just saying.

But it doesn't matter, not only do I not know Tim Tebow, but I'm not even dating right now (not that anyone is asking me, but still it's intentional) I'm trying to focus on the only guy that matters. I'm growing and maturing in my relationship with Christ and getting away from the "I have to have a husband" mindset that the world has put in my heart and into the "God is enough" mindset that I know to be true.

Don't misunderstand me. I want to get married someday, and I'm pretty sure it's in God's plan for me. Just not right now.

Our society has trained us to think that there is this "One." The magical perfect match for us. Well I'm sorry but that is just crap. First of all we are never promised marriage, so the whole "there is someone for everyone" idea that goes with the whole soulmate theme, not so accurate.

Second of all no one is perfect. No one. And when you take two imperfect people and put them in a house together and say get along and make lots of life altering decisions together...lets just say that isn't gonna go well, not if you are expecting the other person to be total perfection.

It's not about finding the Perfect Man.

It's about finding someone who has the same values as you and with whom you can create a relationship founded on a mutual love for Christ. If you have that foundation and you approach all those life altering decisions from a perspective of love then it becomes less about you making each other happy and more about you working together to glorify the King.

Marriage, real life marriage, isn't a dream. It isn't picture perfect, white picket fences, and singing in the rain. It's choosing to love each and everyday, without conditions. It's going to God with your problems and disagreements instead of the world. It's raising children to love Him and his creations.

It's pursuing God together.  Spurring each other on to deeper and greater love.